35 thoughts on “Chivalry”

  1. A timeless message for men to be men and treat women as women and ladies. A gentleman wants to open a door for a lady, for example, because he wants to…and because she is a lady. Respect and recognition.

  2. I was brought up to respect and recognize she is a lady and by opening doors or do things like that I thought it was the correct way to treat her. I have found many women do not like this and that it degrades them. It does not mean we are not equals and by being a gentleman is showing respect and being considerate of her as a fellow human person. Nothing wrong with being polite and I see way too many men are not doing this. It is not a sign of weakness or showing dominance. Women need to wake up to things like this.

        1. I definitely agree with you on this, Buddy 71. Chivalry is actually one of the several forms of self-expression for the male gender in our society, and it is still as relevant today as it was a hundred years ago. To assume, as Denny remarked, that chivalry condenses to just men opening the door for a lady is a gross, utterly pathetic understatement, there is so much more to it than that. While the paradigms of chivalry have changed over time, the basic concept is the same: of showing respect, consideration and care towards women-not because they are perceived to be the weaker sex (they are, in jocular terms, the fairer sex) but simply out of civility, out of courtesy for the other sex.

          While chivalry became noticeably consequential during the Middle Ages to deal with the attitudes of brutality, ignorance and prejudice which were all-too-common in that era of darkness and cruelty, today it is still embodied by people whose actions are always trustworthy and admirable; who understand that strength and gentleness are, on no account, poles apart; and who know the importance of standing by one’s principles, no matter how tempting the compromise.

  3. Does anyone recall the reason why the man is supposed to walk the sidewalk on the right of his lady under the windows above? What did people do with their urine in the old days? True story!

    1. I was taught to walk on the curb side. This is a carry over from times of horses and muddy roads to protect the woman from mud and any run away horses. Also, I think you are wrong, as to walk on the woman’s side to the curb would mean to keep her closer to the building thus protecting her from the contents of chamber pots being emptied. Google it. 🙂

          1. Wow! This is interesting. It’s all about being attentive and thoughtful-two qualities oftentimes missing in the younger generation. Thank you for sharing, Rob and Buddy71. 🙂

  4. Well said. Gentleman code seems to be waning these days. Sad, really, that courtesy and mutual respect between genders seem to ebb and flow with the media when it should just be the way things are. But that’s a LONG discussion. Manners are always in style. Good point.

  5. It’s OK to zig even when everyone else is zagging. Who cares if manners are in vogue? Let’s just all have them, but not beat each other over the head with them. 🙂

  6. I have always tried my very best to be a gentleman. It was just how I was raised by my father. But I must confess, in today’s society, it can be a little hard sometimes.

    1. It was my mother. Dad was in there with how to, but my mom had zero tolerance for rude and disrespectful, made no bones about it and would have dragged me across town by the ear to apologize if she even had an inkling I’d dissed a female. An out of school education that has proven to be a lesson learned considering today’s contentious gender relations.

  7. Oh yes! That is to a huge degree what is not okay with men (boys) and to a degree with women (girls) in our latest generation. Ask me why I still carry a handkerchief in my pocket everyday although I do not need to use it. Gosh, I miss the days (daze) of chivarly though I still do enact it everytime I have the chance.

  8. Valuable advice, though, really, chivalry is merely a species of the respect and consideration we should afford all fellow-creatures, It’s civility, and the civilization it creates. Always strive for improvement!

  9. I tend to open doors only to elders and men that clearly cannot open it as a gesture of help. But not much to women… nowadays it seems either some of them take it as one is flirting with them (I am not, the intention is being polite) or that we are telling them they are weak (absolutely not). As one cannot know which woman is affiliated to such ideology, it is better to risk being unpolite than risk being a harasser.

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