“A timeless fashion statement, par excellence, for men is unbridled chivalry. Sport it with aloft elan at every opportunity.”
-The Little Mermaid, MMXIX
Chivalry
MAKING A DIFFERENCE, ONE STEP AT A TIME
MAKING A DIFFERENCE, ONE STEP AT A TIME
“A timeless fashion statement, par excellence, for men is unbridled chivalry. Sport it with aloft elan at every opportunity.”
-The Little Mermaid, MMXIX
Very good advice.
Happy New Year.❤
Thank you Chris! Happy New Year to you, too. I wish you all the best in 2019. X
A timeless message for men to be men and treat women as women and ladies. A gentleman wants to open a door for a lady, for example, because he wants to…and because she is a lady. Respect and recognition.
True! 🙂
Thanks for your reply. There is nothing like a woman who is confident of her being a lady, which makes a gentleman have a deep sense of awe and respect for her.
I was brought up to respect and recognize she is a lady and by opening doors or do things like that I thought it was the correct way to treat her. I have found many women do not like this and that it degrades them. It does not mean we are not equals and by being a gentleman is showing respect and being considerate of her as a fellow human person. Nothing wrong with being polite and I see way too many men are not doing this. It is not a sign of weakness or showing dominance. Women need to wake up to things like this.
It depends on the situation. Opening doors and the like. Are you on a third date, or are you at a conference with coworkers?
The situations do not make a difference. Respect and being considerate is all the time.
I definitely agree with you on this, Buddy 71. Chivalry is actually one of the several forms of self-expression for the male gender in our society, and it is still as relevant today as it was a hundred years ago. To assume, as Denny remarked, that chivalry condenses to just men opening the door for a lady is a gross, utterly pathetic understatement, there is so much more to it than that. While the paradigms of chivalry have changed over time, the basic concept is the same: of showing respect, consideration and care towards women-not because they are perceived to be the weaker sex (they are, in jocular terms, the fairer sex) but simply out of civility, out of courtesy for the other sex.
While chivalry became noticeably consequential during the Middle Ages to deal with the attitudes of brutality, ignorance and prejudice which were all-too-common in that era of darkness and cruelty, today it is still embodied by people whose actions are always trustworthy and admirable; who understand that strength and gentleness are, on no account, poles apart; and who know the importance of standing by one’s principles, no matter how tempting the compromise.
Does anyone recall the reason why the man is supposed to walk the sidewalk on the right of his lady under the windows above? What did people do with their urine in the old days? True story!
I was taught to walk on the curb side. This is a carry over from times of horses and muddy roads to protect the woman from mud and any run away horses. Also, I think you are wrong, as to walk on the woman’s side to the curb would mean to keep her closer to the building thus protecting her from the contents of chamber pots being emptied. Google it. 🙂
Sorry; I meant the gentleman walks on the curbside, and yes, it was for protection from upper storey chamber pots.
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Wow! This is interesting. It’s all about being attentive and thoughtful-two qualities oftentimes missing in the younger generation. Thank you for sharing, Rob and Buddy71. 🙂
You are welcome. Have a good week!
The Lady is right.
Always right! Haha!
For me it is an acknowledgement and recognition of the rightful reverence for the women in my life. The woman is the source and should be served as such.
A good man treats women with honour. You certainly impressed me with your gentlemanly pattern of thinking, Jeff.
TLM, Seems I’m a part of an increasingly dwindling demographic, the way men and women treat each other today baffles me. Thank you for recognizing me and the way I was taught to treat the true leaders in our society.
You’re most welcome. Have a beautiful Sunday.
See you X
Advice for all the men reading this. 👍
I’m glad you appreciate this writing of mine. Have a nice weekend! X
I couldn’t agree more.
Thank you. 🙂
You’re welcome.
I totally agree!
Thanks Mil! I hope you are enjoying a great weekend! Take care! X
Every man should be doing these things for the lady! Sadly, it’s not as common today. Take note men!
I completely agree. In a world where hyper-sexualisation is par for the course, the evanescence of chivalry, then, is little wonder. It is a sorry state of affairs, John.
Well said. Gentleman code seems to be waning these days. Sad, really, that courtesy and mutual respect between genders seem to ebb and flow with the media when it should just be the way things are. But that’s a LONG discussion. Manners are always in style. Good point.
See my comment below.
So true, Phil! 🙂
Good point! It’s just right to be a gentleman! 📚🎶 Christine
Indeed, Christine! 🙂
Thank you for saying so. Yes, I totally agree. Accept nothing short of it God’s grip. – Alan
It’s my pleasure, dear Alan. Have a fantastic week ahead!
The lost art of being truly human. When men were esteemed for being gentlemen and women for being ladies. A dying art in a world that seems to have lost the aspiration for either.
-Alan
I couldn’t have said it better myself, Alan.
Best wishes X
It’s OK to zig even when everyone else is zagging. Who cares if manners are in vogue? Let’s just all have them, but not beat each other over the head with them. 🙂
Haha! That’s true. I cannot force manners upon someone but just for the record, it is manners that differentiates gentlepeople from brutes. 🙂
I have always tried my very best to be a gentleman. It was just how I was raised by my father. But I must confess, in today’s society, it can be a little hard sometimes.
It was my mother. Dad was in there with how to, but my mom had zero tolerance for rude and disrespectful, made no bones about it and would have dragged me across town by the ear to apologize if she even had an inkling I’d dissed a female. An out of school education that has proven to be a lesson learned considering today’s contentious gender relations.
Oh yes! That is to a huge degree what is not okay with men (boys) and to a degree with women (girls) in our latest generation. Ask me why I still carry a handkerchief in my pocket everyday although I do not need to use it. Gosh, I miss the days (daze) of chivarly though I still do enact it everytime I have the chance.
Being a gentleman knows no age; it is simply a matter of choice. I’m very pleased to know that you still value chivalry.
Have a nice day ahead, Paul! X
Valuable advice, though, really, chivalry is merely a species of the respect and consideration we should afford all fellow-creatures, It’s civility, and the civilization it creates. Always strive for improvement!
Ahh, I was brought up this way and love this quote. Works for me every time, better than cologne, clothes, cars or watches!
We’re http://www.LiveFree2SailFast.com and we live on a sailboat where we’re trying to teach our two little girls to look for that quality.
Even though I’m a very independent woman, I completely appreciate chivalry from the men in my life!
It is the same with me. I think independent women tend to appreciate chivalry much more than those who depend on men to do things for them. As an independent woman, you can do it all by yourself but having a man going out of his way to offer a helping hand is regarded as a courteous gesture and is highly appreciated.
Thanks for the visit! 🙂
That’s so very true!
I tend to open doors only to elders and men that clearly cannot open it as a gesture of help. But not much to women… nowadays it seems either some of them take it as one is flirting with them (I am not, the intention is being polite) or that we are telling them they are weak (absolutely not). As one cannot know which woman is affiliated to such ideology, it is better to risk being unpolite than risk being a harasser.
Chivalry is truly a very rare thing in most men nowadays but maybe some day it will be seen in us a lot more.
Yes! That will happen when pigs fly. Haha!
I believe that it should be a natural part of our makeup once we have learned the initial lesson.
Good call! As many young people nowadays wrongly assume, chivalry is neither about the weaknesses or the egotistical advantages of women nor is it about men flirting with women. Instead, it is a substitute for shared respect and mutual admiration whereby our inceptive biological differences prompt chivalrous actions from the male gender towards females. Men and women are different. We cannot get away with this. What makes both sexes better as a whole is acknowledging and honouring those differences. And this is where chivalry comes into play.
Thank you for dropping by. Take care!
Very true
Thank you Alex! X
It’s not entirely dead. It does live on through few men who take themselves seriously. I have some posts in the ballpark of this if you ever get bored…
Hello there, it is still alive but just as the Sumatran Elephant which is in danger of extinction, chivalry is also at a greater risk of dying today than before.
I remember my grandmother telling me unforgettable, awe-inspiring tales of her life in the 1950s and how it was completely okay and safe for a woman to take a bath in the river without having to feel consternation about the prying eyes of indecent men. While our culture is in a constant state of evolution, our core values that make up the foundation of our being should have remained the same.
I will visit your blog and read your write-ups soon.
Much love X
This is due to a “sexual revolution” that spanned from the 1920’s to especially the late 1960’s. It gave way to full blown perversions. And has escalated since…
I agree with you.
Nice post and reminder. A gentleman shows respect to a lady, and is sometimes disappointed when she seems to not want this kind treatment. Many so called men in today’s society don’t even think of chivalry. I wonder what they would say if we asked them to define it? Regardless, it’s a pleasure to serve and honor. 😉
I’m glad you endorse my opinion, dear Ron.
I would flat-out blame the whirlwind of modern feminism to be partly responsible for the downfall of chivalry. You would be amazed to know that many people find it hard to grasp the rationale behind my anti-feminism and pro-chivalrousness. Well, my logic cannot be understood without an understanding of the ”Why?” and ”How?”. Let me break it down.
Nature has programmed men to protect women. Altruism is an instinct of survival. No, not of our selfish self, but that of the human race. Ever wondered why women live longer than men? No, it’s not that patriarchy puts too much pressure on men and they die-as advocated by feminists to promote ”feminism for men”. Men are not the only males dying faster, this is true for almost all other species. So, unless cats live under patriarchy, that theory is bullshit. The real and simple (albeit brutal) answer to that is because females are less disposable than men. Why? Because the state of the female body is very important for the success of reproduction. The foetus needs to grow inside the mother’s womb, and the infant needs to suckle at her breast. On the other hand, males need only to attract a mate and can pretty much die.
We have been genetically coded in this way. Yes, genes. Our genes treat our body like a short-time vehicle before being passed on to a newer vehicle. In other words, genes are immortal, but the body-what the Greeks call soma-is disposable. Our biological function is to reproduce, the rest is incidental. And that’s not only from a biological perspective, even Freud agreed that our actions are rooted from our libido. And since females’ reproductive role extends much further than that of their male counterparts, higher protection is warranted. Nature’s higher protection to females has existed since the dawn of complex life, and the process has transcribed this higher protection into our anthropology. From the fall of Sparta to the sinking of Titanic, men’s natural instinct has been to protect women. Not just men, even spiders protect their females. The only difference is that the female spiders haven’t yet started a feminist revolution.
It is said that you can’t have your cake and eat it too but the lecherous, deeply hypocritical feminism as perpetuated by stupid, quite nasty social justice warriors masquerading under the facade of apocryphal public-spiritedness proselytize the idea that women and men are the same. The French have a rather beautiful expression for this: ”On ne peut pas avoir le beurre et l’argent du beurre” -always in my repertoire when I’m being told that feminism has had absolutely no repercussion on chivalry.
I hope you are enjoying the festive season, my friend! Embrace the joy in serving and in honouring your lucky women for this is how it was meant to be. See you! X